A hole in the garden

The Rock Garden in springGardens are not always just about plants. As a matter of fact, I think the plants are a bit beside the point. A lovely garden is lovely because someone made it so. Just like how a meal cooked “with love” actually tastes more flavorful (it’s a proven fact), a garden planted and tended with love is a thousand times more beautiful than any other. You know it’s true when you’re in it. There’s a certain something that’s hard to identify. It’s almost as if it’s sighing or telling jokes or smiling shyly. Loved gardens have personality.

Last week one of the Rockettes died. As wrenching as it is to lose her, we have to remember that Pat is not actually lost to us because she left us Blithewold. Just like everyone who has tended this place since its beginning and everyone who tends it still, she planted a bit of herself in the gardens. I know she loved it here. And the gardens are spectacular because of it.The Rockettes in the North Garden - Pat is kneeling center stage

The Rock Garden especially was Pat’s although she gave a willing hand in every garden on the property even on her “days off”. I can so easily conjure a picture of her walking with a slight tilt, hatless down the lane to the Rock Garden, weeder in hand chatting (telling proud grandmother stories) with friends who must miss her madly now. And in the garden I see her on all fours knowing just what to do. Completely down to earth in more ways than one. I can’t claim to have known her at all well but I would want her grandchildren to know that I adored her and felt a connection to her even if it was mostly this place. I won’t forget her energy even when she was tired and her perennially positive vibe (even in stinky weather and finally poor health) and her chuckle. She’s left us a beautiful Blithewold but there’s a hole in the garden.

Pat washing every leaf on the citrus (painting the roses red)

6 thoughts on “A hole in the garden

  1. What a beautiful tribute to a wonderful garden person, Kris. Lovely job and I’m sorry for Blithewold’s loss-and the loss to everyone who knew Pat.

  2. I couldn’t help but feel sadness at the loss. She planted and nurtured more than a garden. I can see the growth of your soul from her touch. The greatest treasure one can leave behind are fond memories.

  3. I’m sorry for your loss of a special person at Blithewold. You’ve written a moving tribute to Pat, which I’m sure her family will appreciate.

  4. Kris:

    Let me add my condolences to those above and they are all right in that you have written a lovely eulogy for a plant wise gardener.

  5. Thank you all so much for your comments – I’ll pass them on to Pat’s family.

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